Yesterday is our seventh year wedding anniversary 🙂 if you are asking me if seven years itch is real, my answer is YES (This is my own opinion and experience). Of course it’s up to you as a couple to work on your differences.
This year is a big challenge for us a couple, we had a lot of trials, there are times that I want to give up and I keep on crying and praying and asking God if what is His plan for us. Hubby also had a hard time in fixing things between us, because of our differences. There is a time that I am asking him to leave us alone, I am asking him to leave the house even for a week. Our misunderstanding is not about THIRD PARTY it is more that we became self-centred individuals, we feel so comfortable that we are married couple but we forget that we are also friends, we become more focus with our Little Kulit, we forget that we are partners. I focused on being a good mom and I am not aware that I took for granted my husband. Hubby becomes dependent with his game in his phone to ease his boredom. It’s too late for us to realize that our relationship is on the rock. And this time GOD entered in our lives and He remind us that
Ephesians 5:22-33New International Version (NIV)
22 Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing[a] her by the washing with water through the word, 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church— 30 for we are members of his body. 31 “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.”[b] 32 This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. 33 However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.
What I have learned in our seven years as a married couple, aside from Loving each other?
- COMMUNICATE- communication is the KEY in every relationship, we must keep our communication line open, as much as possible pagusapan ng maaga if you can feel or see that there is something wrong, Of course not all the time kaya matapos In one day but please as much as possible hindi aabot ng one week, because mas lala ang problem.
- LISTEN &NO NAG- listen to one another, isa isa lang magsasalita, so yung isa makikinig. Yes I have to admit that I am not a LISTENER and I am a NAGGER. But after what happened to us I realized I need to learn how to listen and stop nagging. And I am proud to say kaya ko pala yun.
- LEARN TO COMPROMISE- there is no such thing COMPATIBLE, at first yes you think that you are compatible but when you get married, true ang sabi nila “madami ka malalaman sa asawa mo pag kasal na kayo” it’s either positive or negative and it’s up to you guys how to work on it. And I must say COMPROMISE things are the answer. Meet halfway and stop making RULES, lahat nadadaan sa usapan and bigayan. Give and share lang yan.
- MAKE TIME TO ONE ANOTHER- Married couple needs to have a time together, have to admit this year lang naming uli nagawa. And yes it makes our relationship stronger now, because we can talk without chasing and minding our Little Kulit, it also helps us to build TRUST to one anorher, besides sarap din mag reminisce ng past.
- WIVES SUBMIT TO YOUR HUSBAND- It took me seven years to realize this one, kailangan pa naming dumaan sa mabigat na trials to realize what is the meaning of this one, and now I am proud to say that I fully submit my life with my husband, I become more understanding with him and now I let him speak and I let him decide in some things. I let him feel that he is the MAN in our relationship.
- HUSBANDS NEED TO LOVE YOU WIVES- Of course husbands you need to love your wives because we are the light in our family and learn to appreciate and thanks us in all our efforts in building our family.
This is based in my own experience, that is why I believe in seven years itch but I am glad and I thanked God that we are able to survive and make things better. It took us months to realize the true meaning of MARRIAGE. Being married took a lot of HARD WORK, it is not all about LOVE, because there will be a time na nawawala LOVE but as a couple we must know how to balance it and we must keep the FRIENDSHIP, COMMUNICATION and TRUST to one another and of course PRAYER is always the answer, nothing is impossible with God.
Happy seventh year to us and we are looking forward for more anniversaries 🙂
Good thing that God is the center of your relationship. You have reason to make things work and not just give up. You come to God for the solution to your problems. =) This is a great testimony of how God has moved in your marriage. Very inspiring. =)
Thank you sis 🙂 Prayers is the answer talaga and put God in the center of your relationship
Been married for more than 14 years and wasnt aware of the seven years itch. thank God we are still together, still learning everyday from each other. Happy 7th anniversary to you and may you celebrate more 7 x years to come.
Thanks 🙂 a long journey to go and more learnings
Those were inspiring words and biblical tips for the couples. Indeed its takes two to tango. Happy anniversary! 🙂
Thank you 🙂
prayer is the only way to survive any kind of relationship 🙂
Based on experience, I believe the seven year itch is real. But I’ve also learned that it really depends on the couple on how to survive it with flying colors. Happy anniversary to you guys! 🙂
Thank you 🙂 I think seven itch is case to case basis, and yes nasa couple ang pagaayos
I agree with all that you learned. 🙂 Good that you’ve overcome the 7year itch. Happy anniversary to you and your hubby! 😉
Thanks sis :-), sabi nga nila sometimes you will learn your lesson in a hard way pero worth it nman
Happy Anniversary to both of you Mommy Anna.
Continur to love each other and be strong in every trials and challenges that you might encounter.
Thank you sis 🙂
Thank you for being so honest and straightforward! I learned a lot from a single post.
Thank you 🙂
I think there is no such thing as perfect marriage, challenges are part of married life. It is up to us on how we are going to deal with it. Yes, love may fade so you need to rekindle it. Always remember you marriage vows, it is important in those moments when they are most difficult to keep. 🙂 Happy 7th anniversary!
Happy anniversary! Communication is really the key to a long and lasting relationship. More year to you and hubby! <3
Thank you sis, see you sa MBP party
it’s so true!!! Happened din with us! But at least we’re way past that stage and triumphed over all problems and trials! Congratulations to both of you!
Thanks 🙂 everything will be okay as long npagusapan agad and of course prayers is the answer
Happy 7th year to you and your husband. May the Lord bless your marriage more!
Thank you 🙂
Happy Anniversary! I cannot confirm the 7 year itch as we did not go through it…we went through more like 10 year itch haha. I’m glad that you’ve centered your relationship in the word of God, without it talaga to guide us, i’m sure guguho kami agad.:)
Correct, God is still the answer we just need to trust and surrender our life with him. He will not give us trials na hindi natin kaya. kaya nga sabi ko before when I was in pain, siguro binabatukan na ko ni God kasi nakakalimot ako
Ayee <3 Happy happy wedding anniv for both of you sis, I'm happy for you. Same us here. Yesterday we're celebrate our 3rd wedding anniv too.
Thanks sis 🙂 Happy Anniversary din
As you as you have GOD, love to each other and great family foundation. Happy 7th Anniversary sa inyo Sis.:) Normal lang talaga yung mis understanding tapos nagbabati din. More anniversaries to come.
Happy Anniversary and glad to hear that you’ve survived the 7 year itch. A God centered relationship can truly weather any storm.
Thanks for this, sis! We will also celebrate our 3rd wedding anniversary soon but we still celebrate our anniversary as boyfriends and girlfriends. In a few months, we will be celebrating 7 years of togetherness. I’ve been worrying about the 7-year itch for quite some time now. But you’re right, with God at the center of each relationship, nothing’s impossible. Happy anniversary to you and your hubby! God bless! 🙂
Not being married, I’ve only heard and read stories about the 7th year itch, now it’s becoming the 3-year itch. Though one cousin of mine said before (going through marital troubles at 10th year, I believe), 10 years is too short a marriage… Well, it’s up to one to really continue the sentence. But hey, happy anniversary! It really makes me happy reading about relationships standing strong in times of trouble. It gives me something to look forward to when the time comes that I get into one myself. 🙂
I also believe in the seven year itch. Happy Anniversary to both of you and cheers to a happy and long lasting marriage.
Happy 7th anniversary! You will never go wrong putting God as the center of your relationship. Glad you have overcome the 7th year itch, sana kami din in the future heheh.
May the Lord continue to bless you.. Happy Wedding Anniversary to you both
Happy anniversary sa inyo, sis! Keep the love alive. Wishing you all continued blessings and happiness in life. Kami 3 yrs pa lang married kaya marami pang kakaining bigas. hehe.
Hi, Ana. Congratulations on your anniversary. The truth is, there is no perfect marriage. Each couple has their own trials, challenges, and obstacles. You are spot on with your first key point – communicate. Talk is different than communicating. Communication solves most issues. The good thing about going through issues is that if you and your husband get through this stage, you will value each other more.
Thanks you 🙂 a long way to go for a married life
This post is interesting. The ‘seven year itch’ title was quite intriguing (made me click this link) but I think it was explained very well. Thank you for the helpful tips! Will keep those in mind 🙂
I guess the seven year itch is no myth. As I’m not married and have never been in a relationship that long, I can’t comment from experience but I have the utmost respect for couples that are able to grow together for such a period of time and overcome the trials as they come. Congratulations on the milestone and I pray that you use what you’ve learned thus far to make the next seven years even better!
Happy anniversary! and you’re right communication must be the center of any relationship, because after all, seven years is something just amazing! Building trust and being able to share with this same person, tho thorugh everything is quite rare and interesting! Your advices are so good also!
This is a very interesting post. I’m still young and in a relationship. Even though we’re still not married, I’ve always planned and imagined my future with this person. We’ve been struggling lately, my partner and I but by God’s loving grace, we’re still together, and I believe that as long as you hold on to His grace, His promises, relationships will be firm, and I mean any kind of relationship 🙂
Hi Dawn, just put God in the center of your relationship and just pray because even married couples has a long way to go. Remember there is no perfect relationship, we have to work on it.
Omg girl. Number 5… I so disagree! Come on this is not what God wants, believe me. No man should want to rule his Wife or make decisions alone if he loves you. God loved you so much that he gave you a mouth And an opinion! Youre allowed to disagree. As long as you find a way in the middle. Compromise is the only thing that can keep you both happy. Good luck my love!
Happy Anniversary sa inyo sis. Married life is indeed very challenging. Madalas kasi we take for granted each other. Kasi naman iniisip natin lagi kids first. But dapat pala hindi because at the end of the day when our kids are grown up, tayong dalawa pa din ang magkakasama until the end of time 🙂 God bless your marriage sis.